Glorious Privilege #3 Parent – Adult – Child

Over the last 12 years, I have had the glorious privilege of coaching and training 1000’s of leaders. During this time I have recognised patterns of behaviour that are indicative of truly great leadership and over the next year or so I thought I would share these for you to consider and apply if you wish to.

#3

Parent – Adult – Child

Who will you turn up as today ?

One of the great skill sets of the best leaders we work with is the ability to to be personally aware of how they come into a conversation 

The brilliant book Games people play by Eric Byrne is a fabulous guide into this concept.

In short if you come into a conversation as a Parent the person you are talking to are likely to deliver a child like response – ESPECIALLY if you are their leader.  

If you act child like you are more likely to provoke a parental response. 

As you can imagine the outcomes of such interactions are not the most productive and can lead to ongoing issues.

So the ideal relationship is that of Adult Adult 

Consider someone you work with and position them – if they display child like or parental behaviour south you try and hold yourself to an Adult response and watch as their communication to you starts to alter towards Adult 

But don’t forget it is all about you

So who will you turn up as today ?